Regarding the server not showing up in-game, this seems to be an AMS 2 bug. It's one I noticed back when I first started the club, when the server sometimes wouldn't show for me even though I knew it was running fine as I was the host! I haven't had it happen or seen it reported in the club for at least a couple of months so thought it was fixed. Perhaps the issues has resurfaced with the latest patch.
If it happens to you again, try waiting a minute or two and then refreshing the server list, or perhaps restart the sim. In the meantime we'll report the issue to Reiza and see what they make of it.